I recently filled out a form that asked about anal, oral, and vaginal sex. I know what oral and vaginal sex is but what is anal sex?
It is totally normal to feel embarrassed but know that this is a very common question. I am really glad you asked!
Anal sex is when a penis is inserted into the anus (or butt hole). Anal sex is most commonly practiced between men who have sex with men but can also happen between a man and a woman. Some people really like this kind of sex and some people don’t – both are completely normal and okay. Although a woman can not get pregnant from having anal sex, it is still possible to transmit STDs and HIV (both men and women can get STDs & HIV from anal sex). Therefore, it is really important to use condoms when having anal sex if you are unsure or don’t know someone’s STD & HIV status.
There are few other things people should know when having anal sex.
- Communication is really important. Talk to your partner. Talk about what you like and don’t like. Stop if you are uncomfortable or anal sex is painful.
- Avoid inserting a penis into the mouth or vagina after it’s been inserted in the anus until your partner showers or puts on a new condom. There is bacteria in the anus that can cause infection if it gets in the vagina or mouth.
- Use plenty of lubrication to reduce the risk of tissue tears (the skin inside the anus is really really thin & delicate). With latex condoms, always use a water-based lubricant.
- Relax prior to insertion of the penis to help reduce the risk of tears (once again, the skin in the anus is really thin and delicate). Taking a warm bath before anal sex or lying on your stomach may make insertion easier.
- If you experience bleeding after anal sex or you notice a sores or lumps around the anus or a discharge coming from it, see your doctor as soon as possible.
Let me know if you have any more questions and check out the San Francisco Sex Information website for more info and tips on anal sex.
In happiness & health,
Reviewed by Andrea Raider, NP